Connection with the Reins

I get many questions about how to get your horse on the bit, how to get the horse 'rounder' or softer in the contact. For example, this question below:

Question:  "In my dressage lessons I am told to be light with my hands, but then I am told I need to keep a contact and that my horse should 'fill it up', but then he isn't light… Can you explain?"

This for sure is a big subject! And if it was easy, more people would be getting it right! The concept is full of paradoxes ...

The reins primarily are the receivers of connection, of information. As such, the reins have 3 purposes:

Purpose of the Reins:

1. Subtle communication about the position of the head and neck.
2. Receiver of information about the body
3. Another point of connection with the horse (like the frame of a ballroom dancer)

If you are actively using your reins for other than these 3 things, you are misusing them, and decreasing your chances of having a harmonious connection with your horse, as well as hindering his healthy biomechanics. Because we feel everything, we will feel different pressures in our hands, especially during different movements. But we are still receiving these pressures, not taking them! I feel my horse in the outside rein more in a bend, not because I added pressure, but because his body filled up the outside rein and I was there to feel it! Not everything we feel in the reins must be corrected with the reins. You must learn to be an excellent diagnostician of the sensations that are coming from them. The better your freestyle, the more your reins will be free to do what they are for - those three things listed above. 

Paradox 2: The horse must respect the length of the reins, but be confident and trusting of the hands enough to reach into them and establish the connection.

You must be able to do these two things:

1. 1. 1. Be able to give one, or both reins forward in a way that puts a loop in the rein for 3-4 strides and have nothing change: this is Ultimate Self-Carriage.
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   3. 2. Be able to cause the horse to stretch and confidently take his neck longer without the rider needing to let go. The horse stays in connection all the way as he stretches.

The first one doesn’t mean he has a 'head set' and the second doesn't mean he gets to pull the reins. The horse needs to be stretchable and looking to reach with his neck, yet respect the length of the reins. How can he do this? This happens by creating a balanced body (through finding the sweet spot of Relaxation, Energy and Balance). A balanced body will naturally be able to relax the top line, creating a horse who is looking to reach forward and be stretchable. The rider's body is what tells the horse when the reins will yield to him and allow the full stretch or whether there is a limit. Most of the horse’s spine is in the body. The neck is just an extension. Ride the body well and you will have the neck. Be ultimately trustworthy with your hands and make sure he understands the communications that speak directly to his head and neck.

Paradox 3: The posture creates the connection and the connection creates the posture.

• If my horse is heavy because he is going faster than me, it is not a rein problem.
• If he is heavy because he didn’t turn, it is not a rein problem.
• If he is hiding from the contact, I have to ride the body and show him that my hands will not 'take'.

My hands belong to the horse. The energy must reach all the way to the front (see page 7 of my book, Dressage Naturally ... Results in Harmony, for a description of the circuit of energy) and my hands must wait there to receive it and not block or go against it. What I do with my reins will for sure effect the horse's posture and the horse's posture will for sure effect what I am feeling in my reins.